The original viramoric flag

Viramoric is a diamoric orientation that refers to non-binary people who are attracted to men. The term is necessary because most other ways to say that one is attracted to men involve the assumption of one's gender. For example a straight person attracted to men is typically a woman. A gay person attracted to men is typically a man, although some non-binary people have also adopted this framing of their orientation. Some non-binary people are uncomfortable with this, and found the term viramoric useful for specifying a non-binary person attracted to men.

The first usage of the term, alongside feminamoric, was in an anonymous tumblr ask[1] to Tumblr user Marlowelune in May 2017. A follow up definition[2] sent in anonymously was hosted by the same user.

The feminine counterpart to viramoric is feminamoric. The non-binary counterpart to viramoric is ceteramoric.

Another term to refer to this is androsexual, though some people are uncomfortable identifying with this term as it can be considered transphobic, because the prefix andro- literally translates to man.

The term comes from Latin (vir=man; amor=love).


Many flags have been proposed for viramory. The original flag was commonly used until recently, when others sought out to make their own viramoric flags. The general feeling of the original flag is that it did not represent in a clear way what being viramoric was and meant. The creator of this flag is unknown.

In a proposed new viramoric flag, for numerous reasons (the Mars symbol is used to symbolize men, the planet Mars is red, and the mythological roman god Mars is the god of war and bloodshed), shades of red are used to represent non-binary and/or genderqueer people's attraction to men. The dark red stripes are double the size of the light red stripe in the center, and the medium red stripes are 1.5x the size of the light red stripe. The triangle displays the non-binary flag, and in the second image, there are the non-binary and the man gender symbols interlocked.

One flag was made by Tumblr user snozzzz under the group sideblog lgbtqa-pride-icons.[3] The flag has 5 stripes, and from top to bottom, the yellow stands for non-binary identity, the white stands for diversity, the green stands for positivity, the blue stands for attraction to men, and the purple stands for love.

Another flag that has been proposed is one made by Tumblr user viramoric.[4] It is not very commonly used, and the general feeling is that it is too simplistic. The red in the flag stands for the attraction to men, as red is the color of Mars and Mars represents men, since the astrological symbol for Mars is the same as the commonly used symbol for men.

One flag that has been created for viramory has a red banner on the side of the non-binary flag. This flag was created in a discord server and four different Tumblr accounts are cited on the original post: demisexual-yuri, feuillyadeux, bizexuals, and justfolieadoit.[5] On the right side is the non-binary flag. The non-binary colors dominate the flag as the individual’s non-binary-ness is central to the attraction and is what makes the attraction inherently non-straight. The colored stripes at the side represent gender. As Mars is seen as the “male” planet, and is red, the red shades represent the male gender the non-binary person is attracted to.

The viramoric flag shown created by Tumblr user diamoricmlm-and-nblm is probably the most commonly used, although it's actually primarily intended as a toric flag. It is meant to mirror the orbisian or trixic flag, even though feminamoric was the proposed counterpart to viramoric. The flag was made by Tumblr user diamoricmlm-and-nblm, the green and purple shades representing being non-binary, and the blue representing attraction to men.[6]


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