Tutelary Attraction, also known as Protective Attraction or Dominant Attraction, is a form of tertiary attraction that revolves around a strong desire to take care, protect, and support a certain person. It is the reverse of cedural attraction. With tutelary attraction when one sees someone in a sad or defenseless situation one feels not just sympathy but also a sense of attraction that gets them involved with that person and their needs. It is also based on a feeling of feeling needed or necessary. This is the attraction one might feel towards a child, younger sibling, a pet, or a vulnerable person you are favorably disposed toward.
A relationship between protective and protected person can be labeled as guardianship, wardship, or tutelage. A person in that relationship who takes on the protective role could be called a comate, cherish, ward, or grace. A tutelary crush could be possibly be called a mush.
This relationship should not be associated with DPD (dependent personality), protectors in systems (DID), or with BDSM and kink related power play sometimes seen in sexual/romantic relationships.
History[edit | edit source]
The concept of tutelary attraction was coined on December 23, 2014 on the Spanish language version of AVEN by the user Arya. It was known as atracción de protección and was explicitly distinguished it from the kink related power play, (known as atracción de rol). The post was translated by Tumblr user Neutrois-Maverique on March 16, 2018. Atracción de protección was translated as "dominant attraction". The term tutelary was coined by beyond-mogai-pride-flags on August 16, 2018.