Sex-ambivalent is a term that is used by asexual and other ace-spec individuals to refer to the fact that they have mixed feelings toward sex. Sex-ambivalence refers to anyone who does not fit neatly into the categories of sex-favorable, indifferent, or repulsed. This could be for any number for reasons. Common examples of sex-ambiance include:
- One's feelings about sex change frequently, so that they might be favorable or indifferent one day and then repulsed the next day.
- Their feelings about sex might change based upon the situation. For example, someone might be normally sex-indifferent, but if they're in a relationship where their partner is sexually attracted to them, they might feel sex-favorable. The opposite might happen as well, in which someone could feel sex-favorable or indifferent normally, but if their partner is sexually attracted to them, they might feel sex-repulsed.
- They may be favorable towards certain sexual acts, but repulsed by other common sexual acts.
Sex-ambivalence can also stem from internalized acephobia, which can make it so the person doesn't know if they're actually sex-favorable or if any desires to have sex are simply based on the fact that they feel that people should want to have sex.
Not all sex-ambivalent people are asexual; there are also some allosexual people who are ambivalent about the idea of sex.