Aromantic

Hi im new here and im aroace (aromantic asexual)

Im still pansexual

I just dont like the romantic stuff

I still have crushes i just dont like romance is all

Aromantic awareness week! to everyone from your Aromantic user truly February 20 to the February 26

This probably is going to be a kind of long story but i will try to keep it short. So i am kind of sure that im Asexual but im question if im not straight. So for my whole life i wasnt able to imagine myself marrying or dating someone (still cant) and i never had the urge to marry someone or have children later in life. i also never saw anyone and thought hey they are hot/attractive wich made me think im Asexual. I never been into a serious relationship (i "dated" 3 guys in primary school but i didnt really like them that way) In sixth grade i had questionable feelings for my best friend who is an girl (i am an girl btw) later i came to the conclusion it was just my mind messing with me. Now in highschool i have an crush on my guy best friend (i dont know why i keep falling in love with my besties-) so im like: Okay i never had feelings for an girl and i like this guy so im straight. Right? Lately i find myself kinda "simping" for fictional women like Rosaria from Genshin impact and Ginny from Harry Potter and some other characters and i noticed i started looking more at women. But i still like this guy and never caught feelings for an actual girl. My mind is just dying okay-

So does anyone relate or have any tips or anything for me? (Also i wanna confess to that guy but i am pretty scared cause of he says no i dont want or friendship ruined)

So recently I've been researching into the aroace lesbian label. I recently watched JaidenAnimations aroace video...and let me tell you. I related to everything in that video. EVERYTHING. And also learning more about aroaces with orientations, I think I've come to the conclusion that I'm an aroace lesbian, rather than ace and demiromantic. I've also decided to call myself agender, and for a long time it took a long time to get there because I couldn't accept the fact that I didn't have a gender or maybe there's something wrong with me, but I think I've personally discovered something new about myself. 🏳️‍🌈💚💜🖤

Well hello lovely people! I have a question (again..

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1: What does romantic love feel like?

2: Well....Ive thought I was demiromantic because I've felt strongly for my (non-men) friends before (though with only certain people), but what I feel is....it's more of....I wanna be by your side or like cuddle with you or something....I don't know if this is romantic or not...and its only for non-men. I also like to write stuff about romance but often just describe it as "love". Its just so weird. I've dated once in my entire life and I felt like I wasn't providing enough into the relationship and wasn't really feeling the same way, but still loved them. Romance is kind of awkward for me. But I still like non-men....I don't know I'm just really struggling here, some help would be appreciated.

One is named Bella she is Pan

One is named Ollie he is Aromantic

One of them is named NomNom they are Bigender (he/they)

Bella is a bat obsessed girl.

Ollie is Bipedel Opossum archaeologist

NomNom (previously Nomthesols Nomter eater of the unholy) is a bigfoot Squishmallow who was once a giant warrior that fought for good, however he was shrunken down.

I'm Xai! Im Agender Xenogeder and Apothisexual/aromantic

My pronouns are They/Them/Xe/Xer/Xyr/Xem/Ve/Ver/Vem

I cant think of anything else to put here lmao

(i think i MIGHT be something similar to lithromantic but flip it, like, wanna be in a romantic relashonship but can't feel romantic attraction)

Im in a queer-platonic merriage with @AFlowerBfdiFan

Kate File-Pansexual

Sophie File/Alex-Asexual

Hannah Sztanev/Eden-Non-binary/Bisexual

Sans-Aromantic/Asexual (formerly), Bisexual/Polysexual (current)

Soma György-Gay

Edwin-Bisexual

Pedram-Gay

So my friend is definitely some kind of not straight bc he is HIGH on my gaydar and he even says that he doesnt know what gender he is attracted to. he seems very gay or bi but he says that he hasnt even ever had a crush on anyone b4 so maybe aro? idk guys i need you to pitch me some ideas to pitch to him to try to help him find his orientation.

For starters, I’m not really that worried about them having a negative reaction because they have flat-out told me not so long ago that if I’m gay they would be supportive of me. Also I’ve had a conversation with my dad about what being trans and non-binary is and he was very willing to listen and learn. The only thing I’m kinda worried about is them having a few too many questions for me to answer. I also have other family members but I’d rather let my parents decide if they’d want to out me to them because I’m not so sure how they would react and my parents know them better than I do.

Secondly, I want to be a bit more extra or fun in the way I come out, rather than just walking up to them and doing the standard “I’m gay” so… if anyone has any suggestions..? I also don’t really know when to come out to them. I’d like to do it on a “meaningful” day though, like sometime during Pride Month or National Coming Out Day (Oct 11th). Additionally, I also don’t know when during the day would be best to come out to them, or how to introduce the subject without it sounding too forced or out of place.

Third, I don’t know if I should tell them my whole identity straight away. Usually when I come out to people who don’t know that much about the community, I either tell them I’m asexual, aromantic, bi, or some combination of the three (whatever best fits the context of the conversation at the time) because it saves me from having to explain a whole bunch of stuff and it’s close enough to what I actually identify as. I just don’t know if I should simplify my identity (most likely I’ll tell them that I’m either asexual or asexual and aromantic) and then fully come out to them at a later date or if I should just tell them straight away.

Finally, if you’ve read this far, enjoy a little (slightly off-topic) story about how I have accidentally came out to my parents multiple times. So, with my family, I speak Hungarian and in Hungarian the word for “warm” and “gay” is the same thing: “meleg” and the context of the sentence can change the word’s meaning. For example: “melegem van” means “I am warm” and “meleg vagyok” means “I am gay”. I will admit, I am not the most fluent in Hungarian so, as you can imagine, there have been situations where I’ve wanted to say “I am warm” and accidentally ended up saying “I am gay”. Luckily though, my parents always knew what I meant to say and always laughed off my mistakes as me just being bad at Hungarian.

I have a question about romantic expression. Recently I've been using the aromantic label and I don't know if it's accurate for what I feel.

I feel like I can do all the romantic things, but I won't feel any romantic attraction whatsoever. If I do feel it, it's more of obsession and then it slowly fades after a couple months and then I start questioning whether or not I want to still be in a relationship with that person.

I also like kissing and cuddling and things, and I want a person who can do that, but I also don't know what exactly I am when it comes to these things. I know I'm not asexual, but this is where it confuses me.

Does anyone know what this means?

(idrk if this goes in identity questions but it kinda is??)

I just broke up with my s/o (we were only dating for like 3 days, but we found out it was stressful for both of us, even in those days) and ik this sounds weird, but i'm really happy about it. I felt like it was kinda rushed, and I barely knew him well... I was really stressed and just genuinely uncomfortable in the relationship even though it didn't even last a week. I always got really weird vibes that made me all eepy, I genuinely wanted to throw up every time he said "I love you". Holy, that sound so horrible, but if you were in my shoes, you'd understand. :sob:

Ever since I broke up with someone I really cared about 9 months ago because of issues with my parents, I haven't really dated anyone I really felt connected to. I've only dated 2 people after her, and both of them didnt even last a month... and it was the other person who cut off both of the relationships.

I keep questioning my sexuality. I thought I might be aromantic, but I really dont think so. I still have romantic attraction, most of the time atleast. I'm attracted to guys, and I'm attracted to women sometimes. Other genders, I don't really mind, which leads me to believe I'm either pan or bi? Or omnisexual? But iderk what omni means anymore.

I still have crushes but lately I've just been feeling weird about it. Like relationships are basically useless, whats the point? All they do is make you feel like your stuck to someone, and when it comes to me, I'm horrible at telling people I feel uncomfortable with situations/being forced into doing stuff, which is kinda whats happened to me the past few times.

To be honest, I've only had like 3 relationships that ever ended out well. I think I've kinda given up on it. I only want to date someone if they really know me well, or I think it's meant to be. And I've only felt that with someone like, twice...

I've officially decided I'm demiromantic. I cannot keep forcing and rushing myself into relationships I'm not comfortable with.

If you read this whole thing thank you, and feel free to comment your thoughts. Love y'all!

- TOAST

Alright, alright. I know I’m aromantic spectrum, however I have no clue what labels fit this description. If any label is a possible fit to my situation, please link down its wiki below :3

I long for a romantic relationship and I’m not opposed to romantic gestures such as cuddling, kissing, etc.

However, I don’t know about my feelings themselves. I already have a hard enough time differentiating the difference between platonic and romantic attraction (admiration included).

When I do get into romantic relationships though, my feelings for them are very strong. However, eventually they die out and we break up. When I reflect on the relationships, it turns out I felt a very strong platonic attraction towards them, just wanting to know and learn about them more.

TL;DR: I want romantic relationships and yearn for romantic actions, yet I can’t differentiate the difference between strong platonic attraction, admiration, and romantic attraction.

Someone please help me with this 🥲 I’ve been trying to figure it out for the past 3 years but I still hadn’t found a label for it.

Helloo, I am here to ask if people who are aromantic would be comfortable sharing their experience, I’m questioning a few things but I would like to understand more about the identity before I think further, from what I’ve read my basis is “lack of or absence of romantic attraction” if you’d like to adapt on that please be my guest, cause I’m curious, I’ve seen people who are aro who still have relationships, is that similiar for a lot of people or just few, cause I understand it’s a spectrum just like asexuals. And for those who simply have less attraction do you still have other labels like eg. bi aro or something like that? I know these are silly questions but I don’t hear much from you guys and I wanna know <3 again only share if you want to :)

So i am a first year in highschool (well, now going into second year) and i started having a "crush" on this girl after a few months. well, at least it felt like a crush. i am aro-spec, but now i am questioning if i am fully aromantic because maybe it wasn't a crush.

I was kind of obsessed with her and felt giddy whenever she looked at me or just interacted with me in general. i felt nervous around her. my heart beat around her and wished that she would talk to me more.

But whenever i fantasized about kissing her or holding hands or just being in a romantic relationship, i would feel discomfort. so i just thought "if she asked me out/confessed her love to me, what would I say?" My answer was just to friendzone her. maybe. i think.

And extra information, i dont know if it was an actual crush or if i started to lose a little bit of my feelings towards her after realizing that she is kind of annoying after hearing her giggles and talking with her friends EVERY SINGLE TIME during class. so i am not sure. my feelings for her before and after are kind of a blur.

But i have been thinking, could have this been just like... a strong platonic obsession??

Or maybe i just don't know the difference between feeling romantic attraction or platonic attraction? well, i do know the difference, but when i feel it, i dont know which one i am feeling. maybe it has something to do with queerplatonic feelings. i dont know.

is it possible to be recipromantic and lithromantic at the same time? I know I'm somewhere on the aromantic spectrum but I just don't know where

*The important stuff is in bold at the bottom, you don't have to read this all*

*sorry that this post is kinda long and written like an essay, I still have school brain lol*

Hello, I have struggled with romance and attraction all of my life. I have only ever had romantic feelings for one person and that was all the way back in 2-3 grade. Ever since then I have never had romantic feelings for anyone else, but every so often my brain would tell me that I have feelings for someone. But in reality those feelings aren't real and I am just telling myself that I feel like that. I have no real want to do romantic things with these people. I have an extremely hard time telling the difference between me telling myself that I love someone and me not really loving someone. I have never loved someone exept way back in 2nd grade (at least I think I loved them) and I find myself wanting to feel what I remember feeling long long ago, but I just can't. I have no desire to date, kiss, or be romantic in any way with other people. I can't seem to relate to my friend when he talks about his girlfriend.

Sorry for getting off topic so much, I got major comb type ADHD. When I recently learned that the person that I thought that I had romantic feelings for was lesbian and had a girlfriend, I felt stupid for "liking" her but I never felt disappointed. And that is when I learned about aromance and its sub-types. I originally thought that I was Cupriomantic and Platoniromantic, but then I discovered Psuedoromantic and realized that it was a better fit. But for a lot of Aromantic sub-types I see myself in little bits of them. The best way I can describe my confusion is that If I was only ever showed one sub-type, then I would be content identifying as that. Is it normal for people to not know where they fall in Aromantic categories?

I have two friends, both on the aromantic spectrum.

One, who we'll call R(she/her) says she finds boys attractive and thinks she's straight. Although she has been very close to many boys, but never felt any attraction to them. She has never had a crush in her entire life. She has said multiple times as well "I don't really want to be in a relationship"

Anyone know what this could be?

My other friend, J (he/him), is asexual and sex repulsed. He assures us that he is straight, though he has never in his entire being felt romantic attraction. He gives people this...like...upset smile when/if they say something like: "I like you". He has also described himself as aroace in the past. What could this be?